Episode 38: My Board of Directors… so to speak

I had so much fun last week talking about Mr. Thornton and why he was impactful for me, that I’m at it again. This time I talk about 3 people who were impactful– two more teachers and an extended family member. I’m learning a lot from reflecting on this theme. It’s teaching me what I really want in my life and in my business. It has been so useful! I encourage you to reflect on and journal about people who were impactful to you and why. I think you might learn something about yourself!

Mr. Sandberg was my band instructor from 4th grade until 11th grade. He taught me about passion. He gave me a space to be myself and feel like I belong.

Mrs. Gadberry was my 6th grade classroom teacher. After a difficult year, and before junior high, she was a bright spot in my life. She helped me to realize that learning could be fun instead of so serious. She created a wonderful classroom culture and met me where I was.

Aunt Kathy is one of the reasons I believe I was supposed to marry my husband. She is the epitome of human unconditional love and genuine interest.

Each of these people teaches me what I want to feel in my life and what I want my clients to feel when they work with me.

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Until next time, go be you and follow the Spirit!

Denita

Episode 23: Happy During Covid

I use the term “story” loosely today as I talk about an experience I had on the day of recording. It circles around happiness and joy, circumstances, and faith. I hope you listen in and enjoy my little bit of a soap box. 🙂

Denita

The Knowing Within

It’s nothing short of a miracle that I turned out to be a fairly functional person.

My parents were teenagers when I was born. And alcoholics, drug addicts and high school drop-outs. Although they were both brilliant in their own right.

There was very little money. I remember my parents getting into a fight because I wanted a tennis skirt. (But of course always money for beer and weed (and sometimes speed or cocaine.))

We lived in the middle-of-nowhere-town where opportunities were limited.

I was sexually molested by an extended family member.

I was bullied and teased by both classmates and even a teacher.

And yet. Here I am. Living the “American Dream.”

So many people in similar situations never make it out. I often ask myself how I did it.

I doubted and shamed myself, lived in constant fear and insecurity, but SOMEHOW when it came to the big important things, I was able to listen to the knowing voice inside of me.

Instead of giving into the sex-and-drugs culture I was raised in, I always knew that wasn’t the life for me. My buffer wasn’t alcohol, pot, attention from boys (well maybe a little!), crime or self-harm, but over-achievement. It served me well for a long time. I was driven toward college, even though my parents supported me in anything. I took the “hard” route.

When my mom died before I graduated from college, I didn’t give in to the blaming and family drama and depression. The knowing voice kept me strong and putting one foot in front of the other.

When my husband and I had to figure out what a good marriage looked like without any models, we both turned to the knowing voices within.

When I had the seemingly perfect Christian suburban life, yet I was desperately unhappy still, I didn’t allow myself to give up. The knowing voice within told me it was possible to be happy and fulfilled. And I kept searching until I found the answer.

Listen. If it’s possible for me, it’s possible for you. The odds were stacked against me, so I know no matter how steep this mountain looks, you can climb it!

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