Denita Bremer
shame and Trauma Coach
for Latter-day Saint women
Denita Bremer
Life and Trauma Coach for
Latter-day Saint women

You are not the problem.
After years of therapy or coaching, dozens of books read, and podcasts binged, you still mostly FEEL the same, which is not feeling good enough.
For a long time, you subscribed to the idea that your thoughts create your feelings, and that was amazing at first – a new, simple concept that felt accessible and doable.
But then… it stopped working, and you still feel like you will never be good enough, and something is simply inherently wrong with you.
You might feel jaded about the whole self-help industry in general, thinking about giving up, or trying not to care anymore.
But the truth is – you DO care. You still want to change. You want to feel connection, peace, and be capable of handling whatever comes up.
One of the problems is that you’ve been sold the idea that it’s possible to change quickly and easily, so that became the standard.
And when you didn’t change quickly and easily, it became more proof that you are the problem.
Our culture and the coaching industry are the problem, NOT YOU.
The truth is this work is NOT a quick fix or an overnight solution.
It’s NOT a thought problem. It’s a FEELING problem.
Feeling problems require feeling solutions.
And I have the feeling solution for you.
You are whole, though you may feel broken.
You are successful, though you may feel like a failure.
You are strong, though you may feel weak.
You are enough, though you may feel inadequate.
You are not the problem.
After years of therapy or coaching, dozens of books read, and podcasts binged, you still mostly FEEL the same, which is not feeling good enough.
For a long time, you subscribed to the idea that your thoughts create your feelings, and that was amazing at first – a new, simple concept that felt accessible and doable.
But then… it stopped working, and you still feel like you will never be good enough, and something is simply inherently wrong with you.
You might feel jaded about the whole self-help industry in general, thinking about giving up, or trying not to care anymore.
But the truth is – you DO care. You still want to change. You want to feel connection, peace, and be capable of handling whatever comes up.
One of the problems is that you’ve been sold the idea that it’s possible to change quickly and easily, so that became the standard.
And when you didn’t change quickly and easily, it became more proof that you are the problem.
Our culture and the coaching industry are the problem, NOT YOU.
The truth is this work is NOT a quick fix or an overnight solution.
It’s NOT a thought problem. It’s a FEELING problem.
Feeling problems require feeling solutions.
And I have the feeling solution for you.
You are whole, though you may feel broken.
You are successful, though you may feel like a failure.
You are strong, though you may feel weak.
You are enough, though you may feel inadequate.
The Real Problem: Permission to be Yourself