The Productivity Trap

Thinking productivity will create your feelings or make you feel better is a trap.

When we accomplish something, we might feel better for a moment, but the effect is temporary. So then we have to do more and more to feel better and better. It leaves us feeling exhausted and confused.

We use willpower to get stuff done, which is why we are perpetually tired. Then when we are tired, we don’t get as much done. We are consistently falling short of what we know we are capable of.

This leads to shame, because there is a disconnect between what we believe about ourselves and what our actual results are.

Then we want to feel better. So we think, “Doing something will make me feel better!”

And the cycle continues.

The Productivity Trap

This Productivity Trap is draining and makes us want to give up because we can never quite reach our goal in a way that feels good.

There is a better way. I call this Positive Productivity:

  1. Decide what you want, and make sure you like your reasons. Don’t do anything IN ORDER TO feel better.
  2. Commit to it.
  3. Do the next thing on the path that you think will get you to your goal.
  4. Take action despite your feelings… you will have negative emotion, but it is not a sign to quit. (This is where mindset work comes in.)
  5. Evaluate.
  6. Repeat steps 3-6.

Each of these steps is much more nuanced than what I can outline in one blog post, but if you follow these steps, coaching yourself around your emotions as you go along, you will be able to be productive and feel good while you do it. In fact your emotions will FUEL your action instead of your action DRAINING you.

If you want to get out of the Productivity Trap and into Positive Productivity, schedule a free consultation with me. My program will help you feel better so you can get stuff done without exhaustion or doubt to create the life you really want.

If you aren’t taking action, maybe you don’t believe it will really help

Sitting in Relief Society today, a life coach lesson was reiterated to me through the scriptures.

And again, believe that ye must repent of your sins and forsake them, and humble yourselves before God; and ask in sincerity of heart that he would forgive you; and now, if you believe all these things see that ye do them.

Mosiah 4:10

Now, usually I would read that as “believe and then go do it.”

But what if what is actually being said is “If you believe, just watch– you’ll then do it.”

There is a relationship between our beliefs and our actions.

WHEN we believe, the action naturally follows.

The belief creates a feeling (faith, conviction, commitment, etc) which then drives the action.

I actually had an experience where I was laying in bed trying to fall asleep and thinking about my business. I had a thought, “People are waiting for me.” It actually created a feeling in my body that made me want to get up and go do some work right then.

So if you believe, you will do. If you aren’t doing, then you don’t really believe.

This might sound harsh, but it’s not. It’s a clear sign of what we need to work on.

What’s the scripture? “Help thou mine unbelief.” (Mark 9:24)

I think there are many levels of belief. We are striving for that deep level of KNOWING something that can’t be proven.

Let’s take reading scriptures as an example.

If you truly, honestly, deeply believe that reading scriptures daily will bring you blessings, then you will read your scriptures daily. If you aren’t reading your scriptures daily, then it’s a sign that you don’t really believe they will bring blessings/knowledge/etc.

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This can be applied to anything in our lives. It doesn’t have to be churchy stuff.

You might think you believe that date nights are important to your marriage. So then why aren’t you doing them regularly?

Because you don’t really believe they will make a difference in your marriage.

And when that’s your true belief, it’s easy to let date nights slide.

The action of not going on a date regularly shows you what you really believe.

You think you want the evidence first. As if it’s a one to one correlation. I go on a date with my husband —> everything is blissful in our relationship.

But the correlation isn’t always that direct.

You have to hold the belief first, then you will see how they are important to your marriage.

And here’s the kicker: if you don’t believe date nights are important, no amount of evidence will change your mind.

You must believe first to see the results.

So what action are you not taking? How can you use that as a sign of a belief that is lacking?

Mark 9:23 All things are possible to him that believeth.

Maybe you aren’t signing up for a free consult call because you don’t actually believe that I can help you?

What if I can? What if this is the very thing you have been looking for, and it was right here under your nose?

Just try on the thought that a life coach might be able to help you. When you believe it, then you will sign up. Not a moment before that.