In order to receive goodness, we have to practice receiving. Receiving is a skill at the heart of a cycle including safety, opennes, gratitude, and generosity. Listen in to this episode to understand how to receive better, and where it fits in the cycle.

President Uchtdorf’s Message

In then-President Uchtdorf’s Oct 2014 message entitled Living the Gospel Joyfully, he said, “Heavenly Father is constantly raining blessings upon us. It is our fear, doubt, and sin that, like an umbrella, block these blessings from reaching us. His commandments are the loving instructions and the divine help for us to close the umbrella so we can receive the shower of heavenly blessings.”

In this episode, I’d like to discuss the idea of how to receive. I agree with President Uchtdorf! Sometimes we don’t “feel good” because we are blocking the very things that would help us.

We hear the word receive in a couple different contexts in the Gospel of Jesus Christ:

  • the Priesthood is received
  • Revelation is received
  • Similarly, we receive a witness or testimony

Scripture

In Moroni chapter 10, Moroni says, “after ye have received these things” speaking of the Book of Mormon

  • We receive instruction
  • Ask and ye shall receive
  • and of course we Receive the Holy Ghost
  • we receive compliments
  • we receive gifts
  • we receive mail

I think we often consider receiving as acquiring, like acquiring a gift. As in, it is just handed to us. But because of the wording in the confirmation ordinance “I say unto you receive the Holy Ghost,” I believe the idea of receiving blessings or goodness from God in any form is more of an active concept; it requires action on our part.

God’s Power Covers You

In order to receive, you must be open.

In order to be open, you must feel safe.

So how do we feel safe?

You have access to power that protects you. Believe that God’s almighty power covers you no matter what.

“In the end it will all be ok. If it’s not ok, it’s not the end.”

Feel there are no immediate dangers or threats.

Maintaining Your Nervous System

Regulate your nervous system. I know this is getting a lot of buzz right now, but if you’re anything like me, your body perceives pretty much everything as a danger.

In order to undo or reset this pattern, you have to learn to regulate your nervous system. We will talk more about this in future episodes.

In order to regulate your nervous system, you must meet the demands of your nervous system in whichever state it’s in. There are different demands based on the state of your nervous system.

In order to do this, you must be able to FEEL. (See my episode about the skill of feeling.)

Feel what state your nervous system is in. Feel what you need in the moment.

If you don’t feel safe, there is both belief work and feeling work that can be done.

Being Open

But what if safety isn’t an issue for you? How do we get open, then?

Make more space within yourself (not physical, but emotional, spiritual- but we will use the physical as an analogy) I was thinking about how we physically make space.

The quickest, easiest way to make space is to let go of old stuff. On the spiritual and emotional plane, it’s letting go of old beliefs and belief systems, feelings etc.

The second way to create space is to organize what you do have. Think of your fridge for example.
Think of consolidating the eggs into fewer containers, somehow we have 2 mayos, combine those and throw out the old container. Incorporate organizing and taking control of small things in your life.

The work done in therapy or coaching is essentially organizing what is on the inside. All the beliefs, systems of belief, emotions, identities— they all get tossed together in a big soup, or a ball of yarn if you prefer. Inner work help to put everything in it’s place in a way that is useful to you.

A more painful and laborious way to make space would be like physically moving walls or building a house. I think this is the role the trials in our lives hold. They make us different people.

A Quote By C.S. Lewis

“Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on; you knew that those jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently He starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make any sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought of – throwing out a new wing here, putting on an extra floor there, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were being made into a decent little cottage: but He is building a palace. He intends to come and live in it Himself.”

Be Open To Receiving

We’ve talked about how feeling safe leads to being open which leads to receiving. But I think there is more to this cycle. Safe, Open, Receiving is just the first part. The second part of the cycle shows us that we are receiving, proof of being safe and open and receiving.

    How do you know you’re receiving?

    What happens when someone gives you a gift, and it touches your heart? What do you naturally do? You say thanks, you give a hug.

    The two things you feel and do that show you you are receiving are:

    1. You are grateful
    2. You are giving

    Nobody can tell you if you are being grateful. That is, ultimately, an internal experience. Obviously we can say thank you, but we can do that whether we are truly grateful or not. True gratitude is felt and expressed.

    Just like the story of the widow’s mite, the amount doesn’t matter. We give based off the blessings we desire and who we want to be. We can also give for the wrong reasons, so the outward action is only part of giving, or being a generous person.

    Example: Compliments

    Guess what goes hand in hand with being more grateful and giving? Feeling good.

    If you feel blessed, but not good, maybe it’s because you are not practicing the skill of receiving.

    I would love to continue the conversation with you! Please email podcast@denitabremer.com or come find me on Instagram or Facebook at Denita Bremer.

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    That’s enough for now, and so are you!

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