Episode 73: The Commitment Triad - Denita Bremer Coaching

We talk about our lower brain and its motivations, so what about our higher brain’s motivations? That’s what this episode is about.

</p> <p>Understanding Trauma Workshop: May 20th 11 am MDT, go to <a href="http://denitabremer.com/links">denitabremer.com/links</a></p> <p>Recap of the motivational triad, the lower brain’s main function.</p> <p>Woke up thinking about what the triad for our higher brain, true self would be?</p> <ol><li>Seek Love<ol><li>Love doesn’t always look or sound or feel gentle or “nice”</li><li>When I love someone, then what?</li></ol></li><li>Seek Righteousness / Avoid contention<ol><li>Difference between good and right</li><li>Clarify contention</li></ol></li><li>Seek Simplicity<ol><li>Difference between simple and easy</li><li>By small and simple things are great things brought to pass</li></ol></li></ol> <p>And because the antidote, the solution to, motivation is commitment, I am calling it the commitment triad. 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