There’s one thing we do to unintentionally sabotage our holy habits like prayer, scripture study and sabbath observance, and I reveal it in this episode. Listen in to hear some ways you can improve your holy habits.


1 Nephi 16:29 by small means the Lord can bring about great things

Alma 37:6 by small and simple things are great things brought to pass, and small means in many instances doth confound the wise.

2 Nephi 28:30 For behold, thus saith the Lord God: I will give unto the children of men line upon line, precept upon precept, here a little and there a little; and blessed are those who hearken unto my precepts, and lend an ear unto my counsel, for they shall learn wisdom; for unto him that receiveth I will give more; and from them that shall say, We have enough, from them shall be taken away even that which they have.

The Principle Highlighted By These Verses

The Lord teaches us little by little. But when it comes to our holy habits- prayer, scripture study, sabbath worship, temple attendance- we tend to want to look to a perfect standard.

“I’m going to study my scriptures for 30 minutes every day” or “I’ll read a chapter a day.”

“I’ll stay off of social media completely every Sabbath.”

“I’ll take a family name to the temple every week for an endowment.”

“I’ll say a heartfelt prayer on my knees every day.”

These are not generally line upon line habits!

(Caveat: it depends on where you are with your habits right now. We will talk more about that in a minute.)

Instead of a chapter or 30 minutes of scripture study, how about 1 verse every day?

Instead of no social media on the Sabbath, how about closing the app every time you find yourself on social media on the Sabbath?

Instead of a family name endowment every week, how about one ordinance as time allows, shooting for just slightly more often than you attend now?

Instead of prayer every day, how about track your prayers currently?

I know it seems like these small habits won’t make a difference, but I’ll tell you why they do.

Changing Habits

Something small done every day goes much further for our identity formation than something larger done sporadically.

One verse of scripture, which takes only a few seconds, every day, creates the identity of “I’m a daily scripture reader.” Once the identity is in place, the habit in incrementally larger sizes is far easier.

The odds of you reading more than one verse when your goal is only one verse a day, is much higher than if your goal is 30 minutes a day and you don’t do it at all because you can’t read 30 minutes.

We are not necessarily forming habits; we are becoming someone more. It’s not about the habit per se. It’s about who we are becoming. It doesn’t matter where on the path you are, or how fast you are going, just which direction you are facing.

Here’s the caveat: You must meet yourself where currently are, instead of trying to “jump” to an ideal habit or identity. It depends on where you currently are. When you meet yourself where you are and move the needle only 1%, that is progress! Even if it’s small progress, it’s progress.

I promise if you made a 1% habit change every day, in a very short period of time you would be much closer to where you want to be. You would probably be further than you ever expected yourself to be, in fact! And it would be sustainable change.

Adjust Your Goals

  1. If you currently attend the temple once a month, don’t make a goal for weekly, make a goal for twice a month.
  2. If you currently pray twice a week, make a goal for three times a week, not daily.
  3. If you currently hold Family Home Evening once every few months, shoot for once a month.
  4. And focus on only ONE of these habits, not all of them at one time. When one habit feels easy enough that you naturally do it, then and only then, add another one in.

Sometimes our goal is not to change our habits at all, but simply to track your current habit. What you track improves. That which is witnessed, changes.

Even if you don’t make a goal to change your prayer habit at all, but you track the days you pray and the days you don’t, I can almost guarantee your prayer habit will improve.

I encourage you to start with a habit that takes less than one minute to complete, then stack more habits on top of that as the habit becomes more firm.

Then notice the changes.

See for yourself the power of line upon line.

I know we can be impatient when creating new habits, but trust me when I say slow and steady is much more effective than quick and shaky.

If you feel blessed, but not good, maybe you are accidentally self-sabotaging your holy habits by setting goals that are too big.

I would love to continue the conversation with you! What makes it difficult for you to feel good? Please let me know by emailing

I’m holding a free workshop series later this month on April 23, 24, 25th at 12pm MST each day. I will be teaching, and we will workshop, around how to make important things happen by your faith. I’m also doing a one day workshop about how to improve connection by understanding the nervous system, trauma responses and attachment. Links are in the show description; I hope you’ll join me!

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