Thinking productivity will create your feelings or make you feel better is a trap.
When we accomplish something, we might feel better for a moment, but the effect is temporary. So then we have to do more and more to feel better and better. It leaves us feeling exhausted and confused.
We use willpower to get stuff done, which is why we are perpetually tired. Then when we are tired, we don’t get as much done. We are consistently falling short of what we know we are capable of.
This leads to shame, because there is a disconnect between what we believe about ourselves and what our actual results are.
Then we want to feel better. So we think, “Doing something will make me feel better!”
And the cycle continues.
This Productivity Trap is draining and makes us want to give up because we can never quite reach our goal in a way that feels good.
There is a better way. I call this Positive Productivity:
- Decide what you want, and make sure you like your reasons. Don’t do anything IN ORDER TO feel better.
- Commit to it.
- Do the next thing on the path that you think will get you to your goal.
- Take action despite your feelings… you will have negative emotion, but it is not a sign to quit. (This is where mindset work comes in.)
- Repeat steps 3-6.
Each of these steps is much more nuanced than what I can outline in one blog post, but if you follow these steps, coaching yourself around your emotions as you go along, you will be able to be productive and feel good while you do it. In fact your emotions will FUEL your action instead of your action DRAINING you.
If you want to get out of the Productivity Trap and into Positive Productivity, schedule a free consultation with me. My program will help you feel better so you can get stuff done without exhaustion or doubt to create the life you really want.