I stumbled upon this article yesterday and thought I would share it here. It’s by Heidi Powell (who I know nothing about other than this article) and it’s about how sex saved her marriage.
A friend recommended a 30-day sex challenge to her and her husband as a last-ditch effort to keep them from divorce. And it worked for them.
Many of my clients want me to tell them what to DO. How often should we have sex? How should I respond to his text?
What you believe and think is ALWAYS more important than what you do.
I am not saying a 30-day sex challenge won’t help your marriage. It probably will. Try it and see what happens. What I am saying is that it’s not about the sex entirely.
Ms. Powell even says,
“And was it the sex that did it? Maybe partially. But what I believe really changed us was our dedication to spending even 20 minutes every single day completely focused on each other.
So yes. Sex in marriage is important.
It helps us focus on each other. It leads us to pleasure and fun that we associate with one another.
But sex isn’t everything. For every couple who uses this 30-day sex challenge to save their marriage, there is a couple out there who wasn’t even willing to try it. What came before the sex challenge was a tiny belief that maybe it will work. A thought that maybe it’s worth trying. A commitment to stick it out for 30 more days.
Just like money and time, sex makes you more of what you already are. It’s a thermometer of the relationship of sorts.
Sometimes changing the thermometer changes the relationship. And sometimes you can’t even bring yourself to change the thermometer because your heart already isn’t there.
So what do you want your thermometer to read? Hot or cold?
If you haven’t completely given up on the relationship, it is possible to get back to a place where you are thriving. Maybe a 30-day sex challenge will do it. Just make sure your thoughts are also in the right place.
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